he said: i love you last night by txt for the first time after we had a bitter big fight for 2 days and 2nights. said he has cried a few times for me. but we are not in a relationship! We have known each other for 6 months. I said i love you to him early on before i read any dating books or this thread. i made a technique mistake. but i really do felt for him. then pulled back. been kept my distance since. we maintained as friends and he never said these three letters back to me only until last night after our fierce fight.

what should I do?...

he is a lawyer two years younger than me.  In this past six months, we had fights, I cried and felt heartache too. I feel strong connection and attraction to him but at the same time we found he and I are not compatible in many different ways. dilemma. sigh! 

[此贴子已经被作者于2013/8/21 15:00:39编辑过]

楼上的，你的问题我不太好下定论。但按你说的，im not fond of him..

如果真是和那个女生没什么，他就算为了你，也应该keep distance. 也别说人家死缠烂打，没有这回事，如果男方不给“信号”，不纵容这种行为，女的很少会有如此厚脸皮的。

你也别太夸口的认为他真的没时间约其他女人或是不是个player。知人知面不知心。你就算和他24/7的待一起，都不见得能彻底了解他，更别提你俩现在还啥关系都不是了。你何出此言？凭啥给他credit?

你就再观察几周吧。

按我说的，下次要是再看到那个女的电话过来，你就淡淡的跟他说，why dont u answer it? what bothers u? i dont mind. maybe she needs ur immediate help. You are not a cold hearted man, are you? 至于要不要“质问”他关于这女的事，我建议是现在先放放。你如果质问的话，你立马就处在下风的地位了。这男的会觉得你很在乎他，已经在吃醋了。不要让他觉得他已经吃定你了，否则你更难扳回一局

最后，我再跟你提醒一句，也跟所有看帖的姑娘提醒一句，谁以后要是再让我分析男人，里面谈到的都是些他说了什么什么甜蜜的话之类的东西，我直接ignore. 我都说了10000遍了，尼玛甜蜜的话谁都会说，没实际行动back up his words的话，说的再跟个蜜糖样也是白搭。脑子都锈掉了吗？！为几句我爱你，我想你blabla一类的没屁实际效果的话感动？！

and u bought it? wow

how pretty is this boy? im surprised you only spoke of his job. I thought u would tell us how handsome he is as you kept saying you are all about physical attraction. maybe your more pragmatic than you claim.

应该是内分泌。。。或者是鸭梨太大？你最近在捣鼓啥劳什子的事儿？

如果没的话，想想是不是吃了什么维他命导致的？我发现B族维生素群，补多了，让很多人起痘。比如我。。。。

再如果。。难道是用的啥化妆品护肤品过敏？

不行，你就看医生吧，比自己折腾强

哎哟，又长知识了。不过卤蛋姑娘也太上纲上线了。我想吃冰淇淋纯粹是一时兴起。越吃不到，越暗示自己不能吃，越想吃，有木有。这就和sherrycous说的擦镜子原理一个样！