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Huaren
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cute-wheat

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2012-07-16 00:40:00

我是有心无胆。即使选择去做,也不是为了取悦任何人,这本身就不符合我的性格。只为取悦我自己,我自己开心就好,管他男人怎么想。这个话题可以drop了。

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cute-wheat

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2012-07-16 00:41:00

以下是引用rachmany在7/16/2012 12:24:00 AM的发言:

it's kinda sarcastic to compare ur username w/ ur 1st post to this thread

j/k

看到你的ID 俺很鸡冻!
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cute-wheat

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2012-07-16 00:43:00

以下是引用sexyandiknowit在7/16/2012 12:27:00 AM的发言:
 You know what they say...those who don't have the swag in real life (such as me), try to flaunt it online ;)

Oopsy I don't know how to quote a comment yet, but this is in response to the post right above...Lol I'm a newbee.
[此贴子已经被作者于2012/7/16 0:28:46编辑过]

话说我看到你的ID, 加上你写的又全是英文,我没看前,第一反应是难道我男人上这来抓我来了?因为他曾经很喜欢这首歌。。有段时间天天唱。疯了。后来又是someone that i used to know...
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sexyandiknowit

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2012-07-16 00:47:00

以下是引用cute-wheat在7/16/2012 12:43:00 AM的发言:
话说我看到你的ID, 加上你写的又全是英文,我没看前,第一反应是难道我男人上这来抓我来了?因为他曾经很喜欢这首歌。。有段时间天天唱。疯了。后来又是someone that i used to know...

Yeah He hired me to stalk you here :)
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sexyandiknowit

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2012-07-16 00:56:00

以下是引用cute-wheat在7/16/2012 12:43:00 AM的发言:
话说我看到你的ID, 加上你写的又全是英文,我没看前,第一反应是难道我男人上这来抓我来了?因为他曾经很喜欢这首歌。。有段时间天天唱。疯了。后来又是someone that i used to know...


JK. Nobody hired me to stalk anybody. Just loved your post and felt obligated to register a username and let you know that you are definitely a woman with great dating wisdom. Sorry Chinese is just so hard to type...but i guess I should at least try and not be lazy.
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cute-wheat

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2012-07-16 01:06:00

谢谢你的夸奖 ;) 只希望我的文字能让姐妹们在爱情的寻觅路上少走点弯路。幸福不是别人给的,而是自己给的。只有自己让自己变得快乐,不把生活的改变寄托在别人身上,才能收获一段美好的爱情。另外,如一朋友说的一样,love will come your way when your not looking for it.
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sexyandiknowit

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2012-07-16 01:16:00

以下是引用cute-wheat在7/16/2012 1:06:00 AM的发言:
谢谢你的夸奖 ;) 只希望我的文字能让姐妹们在爱情的寻觅路上少走点弯路。幸福不是别人给的,而是自己给的。只有自己让自己变得快乐,不把生活的改变寄托在别人身上,才能收获一段美好的爱情。另外,如一朋友说的一样,love will come your way when your not looking for it.


I agree. Happiness comes from within. Those who aren't happy with themselves and wish to be 'completed' by someone else always end up disappointed. I do have something I'd like to discuss with you though. I like to have things my way. My ex said that it was 'my way or the high way'. Looking back, I honestly feel like such a b i t c h(not in a good way). I still feel great guilt even though it has been a year since the breakup, and I don't want to be like that again if I get into a new relationship. How much are you willing to compromise in your current relationship?

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cute-wheat

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2012-07-16 01:35:00

我明白你的意思。我也有同样的问题。今早和男友在电话里还大动干戈,又是一通嚷嚷。再次重申my way or no way. 他很无奈的表示我是pain in the ass。我男人被他之前的女人们宠惯了,他现在被逼的在我面前也得低头,当然我也要compromise, meet him halfway的那种。我是觉得,如果你真心爱一个人,想和他好,你会心甘情愿的改变一些你之前不想改变或是根本没想过或是觉得不可能改变的地方。当然有自己limit就好。不是一味的迁就就能获得长久的爱,但也不是一味的my way or no way就能让男人臣服。凡事都有个界限或是准则。我相信,不管再高高在上的男人,在自己心爱的女人面前,也肯低头让步。就看你有没有那个本事征服这个男人了。他如果一味坚持,不肯迁就,只能说他没那么喜欢你。相辅相成。你说你以前的恋爱里bit ch的态度,其实不要太自责,我敢肯定的说,你的ex不是你理想中的伴侣,至少他没达到你对partner的level, 所以你才有这样那样的资本很bit chy. 你在那段relationship中,其实是feel superior的。这也许不是你的本意。我不知道你俩最后是谁甩谁,但我相信,你大部分的gilt还是源于你的ego. 不要觉得guilty, 相信我,等你遇到你想要的那类时,你自然会compromise.
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sexyandiknowit

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2012-07-16 01:51:00

I did feel that I could do better and I still couldn't pinpoint exactly why. He was such a sweetheart, so in love with me, gave me all that he could, and he was smart, tall, good looking and motivated.  We were just two kids...who loved each other but hurt each other in the worst way possible. He is happy now with someone else, and I am happy for him. I wasn't the best person in that relationship and If I could, I'd take back lots of things I said to him. But I can't...
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turtlezhuzhu

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2012-07-16 01:53:00

Hold on to yourself is important in a relationship. Know your bottom line and let your partner know it as well. Guys here are actually more attracted to those girls who can say "no" to them. They might think you are hard to deal with but they will truly respect you. If you show the attitude that you are willing to compromise as long as it does not touch your bottom line, he will really appreciate that. Sorry cannot type Chinese right now >.<
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