我本来不想再发帖子了，但是常常有mm发msg给我问，我在这里一起回一下。

Please understand me I 是1978年初版，内容包括：

four temperaments,

mating and temperaments,

temperaments in Children,

temperaments in Leading.

另外有16 types的portrait.

Please Understand Me II  出在20年后，加入了很多新的研究成果。更加生动翔实。我没有详细对照过，但是有一点，I 还是有一些和 II 不同的观点和内容。

II 里面增加了temperaments的详细描述，我觉得最有价值的是它有关每个temperament self-image, interests, orientation, value, social role等等的研究。我觉得这一部分非常make sense。我这一段时间上网，接触了不少人(ID), 更加觉得很多现象都非常符合它的描述

最近版上出现的一些讨论，我之所以觉得不是很有意义，大家一起来看看这一段话吧：

If I do not want what you want, please try not to tell me that my want is wrong.

or if I believe other than you, at least pause before you correct my view.

Or if my emotion is less than yours, or more, given the same circumstances, try not to ask me to feel more strongly or weakly.

..........

I don not, for the moment at least, ask you to understand me. That will come only when you are willing to give up changing me into a copy of you.

I may be your spouse, your parent, your offspring, your friend, or your colleague. ......not that you embrace my ways as right for you,...but right for me. and in understanding me you might come to prize my differences from you...

--quote from Please Understand Me

大家理解意思，想看书的就去看吧。