最后两段就是改变大人和小孩悲观思维的方法，小孩需要大人辅导，但是原则是一样的：

ABC是最初遇到的困难时悲观的belief

DE - argue with your original belief then change the consequence

简述书上训练小孩的一个例子，我觉得还蛮典型的，应该每个下孩子都会遇到类似的情况。

A - Adversity

My teacher, Mr. Minner yelled at me infront of the whole class and everybody laughed.

B - Belief

He hates me and now the whole class thinks I'm a jeark.

C - Consequences

I felt sad and I wished that i could just disappear under my desk.

D - Disputation

Mr. Minner yells at just about everybody. I guess I was goofing around a little so I don't blame him for getting mad. Acutally eeverybody has been yelled at by Mr. Minner at least once. So I don't think I am a jeark.

E - Energization

I still felt a little sad about being yelled at but not nearly as much, and I didn't feel like disppearing under my desk anymore.

一般来说小孩是天生乐观的，应该不需要心理辅导，但是如果小朋友自己走不出心理误区，就需要大人帮助了。

谢谢比比妈。

你看了好多书啊。

我买了推荐的那本古典音乐启蒙书，可惜对我家的基本属于对牛弹琴。

还买了折纸书，不过折纸的任务都在我们父母身上了。孩子们就叫着让我们折这个折那个。

本来今天下午跟 daycare 一个孩子的妈妈说好请他们来我们家 playdate 。 她昨天还发邮件说她会安排来，今天下午人不来，也不打电话，也不发邮件。我们还准备了水果点心等的。

我反正是不太高兴别人这样，我是不是太小肚鸡肠啦？

我也是觉得这样很没礼貌。

我们星期六打过电话，也发了邮件，她回了邮件。然后星期天就没消息，现在星期一。都还是什莫也没有。