再次谢谢你的分享。

我同意这个，我也同意男生要嘴甜，比如把班花系花校花往狠里夸。

但性学砖家要大家把心里的东施夸成西施？我觉得性学砖家们除非有本事让 neuroscientist 和 surgeon 合作来 rewire human brain，否则就是把大象装进冰箱这不是小菜一碟么？

一个两性作家david deita经常提到女性渴望被ravish，他这样定义，不知道你看了是否有共鸣：

“Ravishment is the capacity for a man to smithereen a woman, to obliterate her resistance and flow wide open to love, beyond her control, beyond her alone-capacity. Ravishment is where she is taken open to the place she has intuited as her divine nature–infinite love. To be taken open by a man who is consciousness as a practice, a man who is not trying to fuck her, who is not trying to put his dick in her to have an orgasm, who is not trying to get her to be quiet or to calm her emotions. He is completely accepting her the way she is. And then loving her so deeply she has no choice but to burst open with his full presence. Ravishment is when she has no choice. She has received your depth of consciousness so consistently, through your body, through your breath, your eyes. There are techniques for all of this, for her to receive that depth of consciousness so fully she can’t help but surrender–even if she wants to resist, she can’t. Loved, by consciousness.  So ravishment is about opening a woman beyond her own fear into the love that is her true nature, deeper than she could take herself.”