呵呵呵！有时候我先生会整蛊我，让我信以为真。

莎拉的先生一边调戏莎拉一边在心里偷笑......

小嘴挺能说会道的嘛！赞

听过一首歌的歌词吗？

我曾经爱过这样一个男人

他说我是世上最美的女人

我为他保留着那一份天真

关上爱别人的门

也是这个被我深爱的男人

把我变成世上最笨的女人

他说的每句话我都会当真

他说最爱我的唇



我的要求并不高

待我像从前一样好

。。。。。。

我来试着改变下面的，以适合。

谢谢 文兄 致歌词！

感概，我与我先生互相发送的信息均属于取中庸之道。

例如：

他没说我是世上最美的女人。

我也没有关上爱别人的门。

我没有变成更笨或更聪明，只是与他共事比较得心应手，生活素质相比提高了。

今天来到了 YouTube 看过了这集 【啟點文化 - 怎樣創造「革命情感」】裏面提到 一个对我是新的词汇：「共感力」我特然分辨出 其实我 就是 缺乏「共感力」的，而不是缺乏「同理心」的 。

@4:55 - @5:26 time mark：说到的具有 「共感力」的人，使我联想起 这裏的会员 .cheer. 我佩服！

Here is my Sir husband''s response to some questions about....

how my Sir husband manage the family matters with me and how he talks to me and get his idea through me?

How my Sir get me to understand people''s 2nd meaning of what they say.

How to cope with my routine life style?

Dealing with autistic spouse is difficult.

For me it is like having another child in the house.

She is capable of doing many things and is very good at maintaining our house, cooking our meals, doing the laundry and cleaning.

These are her looping things.

When it comes to new things or tasks that are outside of her normal routine it is challenging.

I have to be very patient and give her directions.

I also have to accept the fact that it will take her longer to do it.

I resit the urge to do it for her because I can do it faster.

I remind myself "I cannot do everything."

There are some tasks she is better at because it does not bother her.

For example, when calling the insurance company to get answers.

It can take many phone calls and many hours of waiting to get answers.

I get impatient and give up, but she is good at this task and continues to call and wait as long as necessary.

In the end, she was able to do this hard task when I was not.

It helps in our relationship to identify what each person is capable of and assign tasks that fit each person.

Regarding the communication with the in-laws, that is more difficult.

Depending on the autistic type they may not be able to understand second meanings of sentences.

For many, it is just not a concept they know.

But for some it can be learned.

My nephew has Aspergers and could not recognize faces.

Happy, sad, angry or content, they all look the same to him.

With some books and a teacher he was able to learn what faces mean and that has helped him in his job.

My wife does not understand body language.

How a person stands, the direction they are facing, how close they are all tell you something about that person''s thoughts.

I have been helping her with this and after an event with friends we will sit and talk.

I will say： ''did you notice how she turn her legs to be closer to the man.

That means she is comfortable with him.

If she turn them away, that means she is not comfortable with him.''

It is like have small school room talk after we interact with people.

Over time this has helped her learn about people and it is helped me learn how to communicate with her in a way she understands.

I have learned it takes a lot of patience to be with an autistic person.

You also have to learn to be flexible because autistic people usually are not flexible.

If I explain something and my wife does not understand, I say "we can talk again soon."

I will take time to think of a different way to explain it.

It can take several times until she does.

This is where the patience it really important.

I also remind myself that she loves me.

Sometimes her attitude appears like she does not care.

But that is never true.

I know she loves me.

But how she shows she loves me is very different from most people.

Often when it appears she does not care, it is that she does not understand.

One time I asked her, "Do you still love me?"

She said, "I don''t know."

Most people would be hurt by that.

But I know she needs to think about it.

Three days later she says, "I thought about it and I love you."

It was sweet that she thought about it for three days.