抱歉。我在主题里加注说明需要的魅力和威望了。

本意是觉得也许可以给类似困境里的人参考，但实属私人，不想惹一身骚。

再次谢谢你的分享。

我觉得你一直攻击性学专家，可能是因为你自己没有去看过，也没有好奇过这个专业到底做什么的。

你说的novelty sex position，更像是sex coach会给的建议，真正的sex therapist做的都是talk therapy，只是把性话题融入到了心理辅导里，能更好的了解一个人，或者婚姻的全貌，干预过程中不会指导用什么position。

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他可能更多的是表达上的问题？可以matter-of-factly的说出“老婆很好看啊”，但不擅长自然的flirt。Physical arousal其实没有问题，他后来也承认自己不是一个很好的lover。High quality调情需要双方实力/气场匹配吧，sexual confidence的match。--- 啊不过我不是他肚子里的蛔虫。等他什么时候修炼好了，我喊他来发个贴嘛哈哈哈。

当然离婚之后，他说他的date经历，我感觉他更适合性格稍微没那么强势的女生？要不然气场压不住，真的flirt不起来。

还有就是position的问题，我晕。

你没看到其他女性分享的和我有同感的，没oomph的sex是个什么体验。可能真的只有vagina owner能理解这个体会。这个和position根本没关系啊。

Good sex是不管啥position都能感受到feed off energy of each other.

嗯，你提到的这个气场特别的重要，气场弱会导致无法释放欲望。

回复 115楼的帖子

Come on 楼上两位 give me a break，flirt 女生漂亮这难道还需要教？

一个两性作家david deita经常提到女性渴望被ravish，他这样定义，不知道你看了是否有共鸣：

“Ravishment is the capacity for a man to smithereen a woman, to obliterate her resistance and flow wide open to love, beyond her control, beyond her alone-capacity. Ravishment is where she is taken open to the place she has intuited as her divine nature–infinite love. To be taken open by a man who is consciousness as a practice, a man who is not trying to fuck her, who is not trying to put his dick in her to have an orgasm, who is not trying to get her to be quiet or to calm her emotions. He is completely accepting her the way she is. And then loving her so deeply she has no choice but to burst open with his full presence. Ravishment is when she has no choice. She has received your depth of consciousness so consistently, through your body, through your breath, your eyes. There are techniques for all of this, for her to receive that depth of consciousness so fully she can’t help but surrender–even if she wants to resist, she can’t. Loved, by consciousness.  So ravishment is about opening a woman beyond her own fear into the love that is her true nature, deeper than she could take herself.”