楼主姐姐，我说诚心问这问题的。能给个回答吗？
yeshunan 发表于 2/8/2016 8:37:27 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1964830&postid=70710711#70710711]

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说到心态我还想说一点。心态也是一个很好调整的东西。是可以认为训练的。比如人到中年我们每个人心态多少都会比年轻的时候心态放松。为啥因为挫折受多了嘛，不用人教自然知道我其实没有那么大的本事。接受这样的自己接受这样的命运比较好。我不认为这需要学习，这是基因里的东西。因为只有接受现实我们才能活下去。据不接受现实撞的头破血流的人也早被淘汰，或者注定要被进化淘汰掉的。可是心态调整好的人都真的拥有了正确积极看待人生和世界的办法了吗？--我敢说还没有。

再举个心态的例子，美国这里从小鼓励幽默展现自我，positive thinking. Aggressive 。然后培养了大批能言善辩，心态绝对好，遇事绝对会推脱责任的MD们。 看上去他们有活力外向乐观，礼貌有风度。可一遇到问题呢？就显现出很多人的阴暗，不择手段，无比的自私，撒谎，没有责任心，踩着别人往上爬。不止是MD哪行哪业都有很多这样外表美丽内在丑陋的人。而且很多都是成功的人。他们为什么成功？不是他们幸运，恰恰相反，正是他们训练出来的“美丽”的外包装让他们很成功。他们知道成功的捷径在哪儿，他们知道面对这个世界如何调整心态让自己成功。但她们不知道也不在乎如何真正真善美地看待这个世界看待自己。

你如何能说这样的人有真正的智慧呢？但她们无疑是有面对这个世界很好的心态的。

手机打字真费劲。
ccchhh 发表于 2/6/2016 2:51:32 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1964830&postid=70690475#70690475]

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有人是希望自己优秀凡事比别人做的好。觉得自己聪明智商高。比如我自己。这就是一个人自我在作祟。比别人优秀不了的时候就失落啦，就挫败感了。有些其实已经很优秀的孩子或者大人不就自杀了吗？

其实我一直认为人很难放弃自我。为啥我认为这是写在我们基因里，进化需要。一个不想和别人比较不想把别人比下去的人也许他的基因已经被进化淘汰了。因为这样的人是不利于我们人类进步的。

还有另一个问题是如何对丑陋的事情和丑陋的人能原谅和接受。这是一个更大的智慧，也是对人性一个更大的考验。举个例子。
ccchhh 发表于 2/6/2016 2:21:20 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1964830&postid=70690295#70690295]

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我说这些是想说，修行更是智慧层面上的。修行更是你怎么看待世界看待他人看待自己的问题。至于你们讨论的打坐念经培养爱好那真的很低级。恕我直言。
ccchhh 发表于 2/6/2016 2:31:40 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1964830&postid=70690368#70690368]

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这点不同意。真正觉悟了的智者，其实才是我们人类进步的真正推动力。人类进步靠的不只是科学技术，我们这个时代，科学已经发展到了这样的地步，我们真正需要的是更多的觉悟和智慧

kethy 发表于 2/9/2016 12:55:57 AM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1964830&postid=70712857#70712857]

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:D Thanks for leading me to read Matthew 7
Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven.
Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works?
And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity.
Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built his house upon a rock:
And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell not: for it was founded upon a rock.
行者






happilyeverafter 发表于 2/7/2016 3:37:21 AM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1964830&postid=70695005#70695005]

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Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience. My background lacks any religious education nor spiritual experiences, but I'm interested to learn more through this discussion. Hope you can help me with the basic concept still, so if my questions sound blunt or disrespectful, I apologies. It is not my intention.

I'd like to know how "分别心“ and “缘” is related. In my understanding, the goal is to achieve no 分别心, treat everyone equal. But in cases where you pick your friends, you would select the ones you have "缘分“ with. When we do that, won't we treating people differently?

Through the discussion in this thread, I also see there is a requirement to have faith in your master. Trust that person no matter what. But how do you tell if someone is truly doing good for you? In the example you had with your friends asking you to buy stuff, you don't think that was a good deed for her, so you ignored her request, but how do you know if she is asking for herself? What if she is buying for someone special and deserve it? I'm trying to understand how to think about this logically. Or this is more about "智慧“, and not so much with the logic we are familiar with?
Doraemon 发表于 2/9/2016 4:35:21 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1964830&postid=70719906#70719906]

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Wow, this couldn't have been expressed better.

Knowing is not equivalent to doing, and doing is not the same as being.

Hope all of us will be able to eventually understand the true meaning of Buddha's teachings and embody it. 我们一起加油~



urthur 发表于 2/9/2016 1:28:10 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1964830&postid=70717071#70717071]

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