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so far, mainly because of my Sir''s MFF fantasy, I am exploring a new relationship style: Polyamory 

"Polyamory is about how many relationships you want to have at the same time. It’s about your relationship style. It’s the opposite of monogamy. Polyamory is being ethical about it, so we’re not including cheating and that kind of thing."

～ 摘自同楼上的连结 文章。

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so far, mainly because of my Sir''s MFF fantasy, I am exploring a new relationship style: Polyamory 

"Polyamory is about how many relationships you want to have at the same time. It’s about your relationship style. It’s the opposite of monogamy. Polyamory is being ethical about it, so we’re not including cheating and that kind of thing."

～ 摘自同楼上的连结 文章。

这是开放式婚姻的定义么？

我不太接受开放式。但接受夫妻交换，也不太喜欢MMF。

以我理解，开放式的婚姻没有一式一款的运行系统或约书。即是up to each individual 当事人。

现在我与我先生暂时所达到共识的约书是 看机缘遇上一个 可兼容的 女小三人物。若果不成，做闺蜜也很好，再不成，做朋友也好。日后见着行，周期性地review各方面关系的发展。

例如，当初我先生与那高才靚女下属互相暧昧的发展，caught me off guard, 是我最差EQ来适应的时期，所以我搁置了他们的发展。现在以几年了，经过我主动多次翻案，我比当时更有把握来经营这种 Polyamory 的婚姻。

最基本的定义 是 透明度，無須欺骗隐瞒。

个人数据点：我先生就是喜欢 MFF，不是FMF。他比较对看着两位女士性爱有幻想空间。

我还没有搞懂 自己 在这三方面 如何对号入座：Bisexuality, Pansexuality, Asexuality、、、基本上我的性向与我先生的性向暂时还未有冲突的地方。

順便分享「psychologytoday」的 一則 文章：【Bisexuality, Pansexuality, Asexuality and Sexual Fluidity】

我評估 我与我先生同属：“use the Fritz Klein sexual orientation model. It wasn’t just who you were having sex with, but it was who you were attracted to, who you are fantasizing about, what you were doing sexually in the bedroom, and who you were hanging out with socially. Sexuality has many dimensions that we don’t realize.”

哪有那么容易开放婚姻。。。5年可能就能遇上1个喜欢的人。