I very much agree with this comment. Very sensible and clear headed. Money is not the only thing that matters. You can't boost your self-esteem from what your husband earns. Meanwhile, think from the bright side, you are having a "problem" many people are yearning for. What you need to do is to better prioritize your life, family and career. Keep at it, when your kids grow up a little, you'll have the time to catch up with your career. P.S. I'm in a similar situation - not as much as 10 times - but my salary is negligible for the household. And I love my job and I'm not as busy. But I understand my strength is not at homemaking and I won't enjoy it as much. The solution we found is to find a good nanny, pay her with my salary and we take care of kids outside of our work hours. So far it seems to be working.