Just my two cents: 1. Comparing wages in obviously two different professions is like trying to compare apples and oranges. 2. Do not confuse the concepts of a job and a career, a job is just a job-paying for the rent, earning a living, that’s it. A career is another thing, if you know where your career is, you should not complain, because all your pains and efforts will eventually get payoffs. 3. Honestly speaking, I cannot show any empathy in your case, or even sympathy, and I won’t. A lot of people in this forum are desperately looking for a job, or are currently suffering long-distance for a job. It seems to me you have a perfect family and a job that you can earn self-esteem. Now you just made a fuss about the fact that you cannot compete to your husband’s abnormally high salary, if you keep thinking like this, no need to grill: hell is other people.