以下是引用cute-wheat在5/9/2013 7:31:00 PM的发言：

from ur words, i can sense hes a nice guy, but hes definitely carrying a lot of baggage from the past and he feels like he's insecure.. more or less. if u dont have enough strength and wisdom/experience to deal with this kind of guy, its better to leave him alone. im not saying he will hurt u for sure, but its very possible. he will probably do this one step in, one step out kind of thing.. hot and cold.. pulling back and coming around.. he needs to man up.. which i dont think its ur job to "train" him. the truth is... dating him several times should make you fall for him... if u dont find this kind of chemistry between u two, maybe he's not the right guy. move on. ALSO, you need to be confident. each time when a guy compliments you, smile back and thank him for saying sweet things. no need to feel uncomfortable (most of chinese girls have this problems).. we are all beautiful. a confident woman is very very very very attractive. its more powerful than precise makeup and fancy outfit. good luck, sweetie. i wish u the best. oxox