就像很多中国家长对孩子的态度，我生了你，我就是你owner，我这么做都是为你好，这种态度有毒 They are grown up individuals, they might make bad choices but what they chose is eventually their life ,not parents’ . We can help and love them but have no control over them , tho you think you are wiser than them older than them ,does not work that way , that is called life