例子有她去参加一个小朋友的生日party，4、5个8、9岁的女孩子围着一个圆桌玩吹气球，女儿过去也想玩，一个女孩子马上说：“别动，这是我的！”其他几个女孩子也马上把桌子中央的气球往自己面前拢。女儿很是不知所措，我也愣住了。当时有两三个家长就站在旁边，但是什么都没说。女儿委屈的问我：“妈妈，她们为什么不share？” it is nice to share with people. however sometime people choose not to share with you, it is their choice. we have our choice to choose who to play with and develop friendship.

还是在这个party上，我给小朋友们发冰棒吃，不同口味，一个小朋友吃了一口自己的冰棒，看到女儿手里的冰棒是她爱吃的口味，马上从我女儿手里劈手夺过去了，女儿和我又一次不知所措。 excuse me? what did you do just now? that is MINE! YOU CAN NOT TAKE IT FROM MY HANDS LIKE THAT!

还有一个小朋友，和女儿playdate几次，每次都让我很心塞。女儿的头发有点黄，这个小朋友会用手指尖挑起女儿的几根头发嘲笑说，Your hair is very ugly! It stinks! 然后就是哈哈大笑。我有一次没忍住，就告诉她，There is nothing wrong with xx 's hair color. If you are friends, you should treat your friends nicely. 她非常生气，把手里的玩具往地上一摔，然后大声的和我说，Not anymore! 还有每次她们在一起玩游戏，说好了轮流当坏人，但是一轮到她她就说不当，还指着我女儿说， Xx is the bad guy! I am not! xx felt very bad when you said her hair is stink. what if I tell you hair is stink, how do you feel about it? treat others the way you want to be treated.