Can't type chinese now. Lz, what is wrong about saying your parents are low or are bad parents? What is wrong about them thinking that you are not good daughter? What would you regret if you are not treating them the way they wanted? You can't choose your parent, true. But you can choose to treat them the way that they deserve. Life is too short to be correct on everything, but you need to figure out what is most important for you, and who is the most important person that deserves your love. Your parents, obviously, are not the ones that deserves so much of your emotional concern. You shouldn't even allow them to have the chance to hurt your husband and kids. Be a grown up, and judge your parents the way they deserve, treat them the way they deserve as they truly are, not just because they are your parents.