我比较幸好，前夫与现任先生都不是以貌取人为主要娶妻的要求。

他俩的 性感觀 也不是单方面地从外观 来界定。

Here is my Sir's 观察和见解: （原文）

Men are visual. Initial attraction is based on what they see. Long term interest is based on how the woman makes him feel. What is visually attractive to a man is different for each man and very specific. For me, no blond women. All of my sisters are blond and they were mean. The woman's smile is the first thing I notice. If she never smiles I will not have interest in her. After that, butt, legs and how she moves. Women who walk like cowboys are not attractive. Women who are graceful are very attractive. But this is me. I have male friends who have very different requirements. My brother-in-law loves blond hair and big boobs. Another friend loves woman who wears cowboy boots, jeans and drives a Jeep. So what visually interests a man is very different from one man to another.

But after the visual attraction, then what? The visual is what gets him to look at you and maybe enough for him to come and talk to you. But the visual is not enough to keep him around for more than a few days. After that is about personality. How do you treat people? How do you treat him? Are you smart? Do you laugh easily? Is your outlook on the world positive or do you think the world is bad. These are the types of things that will keep him interested in you in the long term. For me, a woman who is intelligent, has a good sense of humor and a positive outlook on the world is very important the long term. I cannot stay interested in a woman who does not have all of these.

There are a lot more things that interest me, but these are the big ones.

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这是我先生的观察和见解。

男人都是视觉的. 最初的吸引力是基于他们所看到的。长期的兴趣是基于女人如何让他感觉。什么是视觉上吸引一个男人是不同的每个人，非常具体。对我来说，没有金发女人。我的姐妹们都是金发碧眼的，她们都很刻薄。女人的笑容是我首先注意到的。如果她从来不笑，我就不会对她有兴趣。然后是屁股、腿和她的动作。走路像牛仔的女人没有吸引力。婀娜多姿的女人很有吸引力 但这是我。我有男性朋友，他们的要求很不一样。我姐夫喜欢金发大胸的女人。另一个朋友喜欢穿牛仔靴、牛仔裤、开吉普车的女人。所以不同的男人在视觉上感兴趣的东西是很不一样的。

但是视觉吸引之后，然后呢？视觉是让他看上你，也许足以让他来和你说话。但是视觉是不足以让他在身边多呆几天的。之后就是性格了。你是怎么待人的？你是怎么对待他的？你聪明吗？你容易笑吗？你的世界观是积极向上的，还是认为这个世界很糟糕。这些都是能让他对你长期感兴趣的东西。对我来说，一个聪明，有良好的幽默感和积极的世界观的女人是非常重要的长期。我无法对一个不具备这些条件的女人保持兴趣。

我感兴趣的东西还有很多，但这些都是大的。