我這個 亞斯伯格 思維，倒覺得沒什麼可「惊悚」的。

什么是边缘性性行为

的話，不知道性別也大有可能

而且 還視乎對手

如果遇上我先生這樣的 性經驗、性知識都豐富、閱人夠多的，就很難保住性別的「秘密」了

記得第一次我與我先生的同事們第一次出去吃飯 team bonding 的活動

大家輪流講講一點過去的笑話

我先生說想不到講什麼故事

他以前的下屬當時也在

提議他講講 他們以前看到一個 站在街上的 「女妓」

他們同行的同事們開始都不知道 那人其實是「男」

只有我先生不用接觸 就能從觀察來準確判斷 那人是「男」（還有陰莖的）

我第一次聽他兩講這段故事情節

我還傻呼呼的問我先生：「你沒看裸體怎麼證實？」（因為我的 metaphorical 思維比較弱 ）

鬧得在場的男同事們都在大笑。 （當時只有我一位女同事）

其中一位旁聽的男同事開玩笑的對我說：「他是用了科學中的 唯物辯證法」

更鬧得男同事們更笑起來

我還是不明白 他們男性 的性思維方向 有什麼好笑之處呢？

這也是我歡迎不同維度思考的男性來一版交流分享

好拉近兩性在性思維方面的彼此了解

我和我先生是 BDSM 裏 D/S 的關係

按我在BDSM方面的經驗與知識 個人認為：

知不知道 對手的性別 與 BDSM 無關

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後來跟著我先生

遇上了更多男扮女裝的 朋友

都是扮起來，言談舉止都比許多女人更有風韻

我一向比較容易欣賞女人美

還得到公司裏萬聖節化妝比賽冠軍

如果不是我先生告訴我 「她」是誰

我還蒙在鼓裡呢

我當日一整天都把那人當作「女」性來 交談了一個多小時 感覺還特別好

這個 自己所信任對方的是什麼？ 自己被對方信任的地方又是什麼？

使我聯想到 「consent」這概念 和 YouTube 這個：

When "Yes" Means "No", the Truth about Consent | Joyce Short | TEDxYouth@UrsulineAcademy

Joyce Short is the author of Carnal Abuse by Deceit, and Combating Romance Scams, Why Lying to Get Laid Is a Crime! Her personal experiences with sexual assault launched her on a path to raise awareness and seek legislative solutions. She advocates for victims of all types of sexual assaults, helping them seek justice and recover their dignity. 

期待中、、、、謝謝啊

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